Because if we can't even get to the point of talking productively about our existential threats, it's only a matter of time until one of them does us in. We can begin to address this by committing to having more productive disagreements. One thing to try: the next time you find yourself in a frustrating disagreement that's going nowhere, find a real person that you disagree with and ask them: "What do you think is true, what do you think is meaningful, and what you think is useful on this topic?" Listen charitably, then answer for yourself as well. Then, if you're both motivated, you can pick one of those things to dig into further, and has a much greater chance of being productive.
This means I need to first of all know myself, and what I believe, and to regularly review my life. Since I have vast blind spots, I want to always be open to perspectives and evidence that could help me see things more clearly. If you think I'm wrong about something, please tell me. If I can help you see something from a different perspective, reach out. If you know a good joke, I'd like to hear that too.
Remember we will die, and so will the universe. Good brings bad, and bad brings good. Appreciate the weeks we get.
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